What would change if you discovered how to open your heart?

Do you have a partner with whom you share a strong, loving and mutually satisfying relationship?

Do you feel at peace with your parents?

Are you friends with your children?

Do you experience love and ease in your friendships?

Do you have mutually supportive and respectful relationships at work?

Are you at peace with all your relationships and friendships from the past?

Do you love and respect yourself and look after yourself really well?

Do you have a connected, satisfying and rewarding relationship with the Light/Divine (or any other name for God/Energy/Spirit/the Creator)?

Do you love your life?

If the answer is yes to all of those questions, your heart is wide open and you are probably experiencing a lot of peace and happiness in your life. You're a shining example for people all around you and you're bringing great joy to others as well as to yourself.

If the answer to any of these questions is no, you know what it feels like to have closed your heart, maybe because you felt hurt or misunderstood or ignored in the past. Even if you work hard to be positive and loving towards others I'm sure you still feel some sadness or loss around the relationships that are not at peace.

When your heart is open you feel at ease within yourself and you experience the best of what human life has to offer. Trust is your natural state of being, life feels benign and you are relaxed and peaceful. Fear, doubt and worry have no place in your world.

It doesn’t take much for our hearts to close down – an insult, a hurtful comment, a misunderstanding, an event that triggers something painful from the past. And the interesting thing is that we tend to stay with our hearts more or less closed after that. It seems quite rare to recover naturally. 

This is the way resentments get built up over the years and turn into bitterness and regret. This is the way disappointment can lead to depression and even hopelessness – “It’s never going to change” or “He’s always been the same so I can’t expect anything else now.”

The more I explore healing the more I realise that this is also the root of most sickness. If you really love yourself, your life and the people in your life it would be remarkably difficult to get sick because you would not experience the negative emotions that cause sickness. You would also be highly motivated to look after yourself and treat yourself well – and people who love themselves and their lives take care of themselves very well.

However, if you've experienced trauma, pain or a lot of misunderstanding in your life it's not surprising that you find it hard to love yourself or other people and you can be forgiven for wondering how to really love life when it doesn’t feel as if it is being very loving towards you. And so we reach the Catch 22 – how can you love life when life doesn’t appear to love you? How can you love yourself when there doesn’t seem to be much to love? How can you love others when they are unreliable, hurt you or treat you badly?

Of course, like many, you can keep on standing up again and again, hurt but refusing to be broken. You become tougher and harden yourself against the pain and constant disappointment. You can escape into spirituality and try to meditate the pain away. Or you can be relentlessly positive, but underneath the surface you may find you're still boiling inside.

I don’t want to be too negative, but honestly, what I'm describing appears to me to be the norm. It's rare to meet people with truly open hearts and they've usually done many years of work on themselves to overcome the tendency to close down whenever a relationship begins to hurt.

What’s most exciting right now is that more and more people appear to be becoming conscious of this and want to open their hearts. They're becoming aware that turning away from relationships doesn’t solve any of the problems, and that they need to face up to their own responsibility in any relationship that is not working.

In this course called Open Your Heart I've been truly impressed at the courage of participants in facing up to relationships that have been hurting them sometimes for 20 or more years and that have been surrounded in confusion, deception and struggle. The release and relief that arise when you understand why this was happening to you is uplifting and inspiring. 

When you truly open your heart, especially where it looked like there was no hope of reconciliation, it's transformative not only for yourself but for others who have the chance to witness the change.

There's a process for opening your heart, which you can follow step by step, and it actually works. It transforms relationships without you even needing to talk to the other person, although you will probably find you want to talk to them much more once you've completed it.

You can follow the process over and over again, with all the relationships in your life that are troubling you, and you'll start to experience a level of peace that you may never have known before. And the more peace you experience within yourself the more you'll find that people are behaving peacefully towards you – even people who may have been very angry or aggressive before.

I don't want to explain the process here, because it's not something you can do in theory and to fill your head up with ideas about what you should be doing is most likely to make things even worse. It's best learned through practice with someone to guide you, just like skiing or painting or dancing. Once you master it yourself you will be able to pass it on to others, especially children – and perhaps we could prevent some of this suffering in the next generation.

The rewards of being open-hearted flow into every area of your life. As your contentment and ease grow your health will naturally improve. You will no longer be pumping negative chemicals through your body with thoughts of bitterness, anger, resentment, despair or disappointment. The emotional balance that arises will help you work more effectively and efficiently (less wasted time and less mistakes) and if you have your own business you can expect increased income and success as a result. 

And when your heart is open you feel connected to life so it's much easier to find a path (whether through career or something else) that provides you with a source of deep inspiration and satisfaction throughout your life.

These are rich rewards for a process that is intrinsically simple. Anyone can do it, as long as you're willing to be honest with yourself. At times you may want to run away and not face your own part in the situation, but if you stick to it the discomfort will dissolve remarkably quickly and then transform. You'll feel lighter and you'll see people differently. You won’t want to blame others for your pain any more and this will give you great freedom as you take back your power and take full responsibility for your own life.

If this resonates with you, I invite you to take this course, Open Your Heart, so you can find relief and inner peace.

Sarah McCrum

What do other people say about this course?

“Open Your Heart... and heal. I've been through this course/personal process more than once and I can't recommend it enough. I know some concepts are so commonplace nowadays, but actually living the "Open your heart" process has put me face to face with the value and meaning of expressing needs, Forgiveness, Love and Empathy. All of these towards the Other and the Self. When undergoing this healing process of opening my heart, I felt that a thread of deep wisdom was ahead of me, allowing me to take my own steps, and at the same time, not letting me go astray. That's why I'm so grateful for having come across Sarah's words and teachings and for the way she's provided the course in so well paced, manageable steps, with so tender relaxations to get us prepared for the day's hardships (utterly rewarded in the end!), and the clear wise words for the real task.”

Isobel Pereira

“You are prepared for these moments with comfort and support and yet a raw honesty that you will not encounter anywhere else. You stand there facing yourself; facing your truth, not just the role you played in creating the problems you are suffering with but the painful truth that you are the source of your troubles, you attracted all of this into your world just by thinking, and being, and judging the world through tainted lenses; blaming the world for not understanding you, or not loving you...When you do OYH you finally learn an easier way to shed this part of your life for good, so that the world is not only viewed differently by you but you learn how to see everything through the eyes of someone who knows how to figure out once and for all, at the core, why it is happening, where it began, how you played your part, and the deal-maker of a lifetime... how to finally fix it all so it NEVER happens again. It changed my world, my life, and my loving relationships.”

Tiffany Litherland

“It creates profound healing, rebuilds love and respect and gives you understanding of why we get hurt in relationships.” Although I chose to focus on a family relationship for the Open Your Heart process, what happened is that my heart opened to love itself. And that pure love began to manifest itself virtually everywhere possible…reflecting love back to me…at incredibly intense levels. What I found was that in every situation, negative and positive, the experience of love with a purely open heart was the only force that mattered…almost frightening, at times, because the innocence of it and the reality of it defied human logic. It wasn’t easy but it was simple…sincere observations…raw emotions…fun. So in every aspect of my life these days, I’m moving forward with love for all, more importantly, love for me, the only thing one can really do when faced with a questionable relationship (with money, that is!) – eyes wide open and feet on the ground. In the end, I clearly see me. What could be more illuminating?”

Caryn Dudarevitch

Course curriculum

  • 01

    1. Why Open Your Heart?

    • Get started

    • Relaxation

    • Introduction

  • 02

    2. What's the problem?

    • It starts with dissatisfaction

    • Relaxation

    • Why we experience relationship problems

    • Journal

  • 03

    3. Who do you blame?

    • Be honest about blame

    • Relaxation

    • Exploring Blame

    • Journal

  • 04

    4. How do you feel?

    • Why are feelings important?

    • Relaxation

    • How to find your true feelings

    • Journal

  • 05

    5. What are they showing you about YOU?

    • Why see the mirror

    • Relaxation

    • How to see what's really going on

    • Journal

  • 06

    6. How are they helping you?

    • Your enemy is your best friend

    • Relaxation

    • Appreciating the other person

    • Journal

  • 07

    7. How can you forgive them?

    • Forgiving with your heart

    • Relaxation

    • How to forgive

    • Journal

  • 08

    8. How can you forgive yourself?

    • The power of self forgiveness

    • Relaxation

    • How to forgive yourself

    • An important note about God and forgiveness

    • Journal

  • 09

    9. What do you really really want?

    • Looking forward again

    • Relaxation

    • Getting clear on what you want

    • Journal

  • 10

    10. Who comes first?

    • Why you are the most important person in your life

    • Take care of your health

    • Take care of how you feel

    • Appreciate yourself and your life

    • Relaxation

    • Putting yourself first is not selfish

    • Journal

  • 11

    11. What is your commitment to yourself?

    • The value of long term commitment

    • Relaxation

    • Making a commitment to yourself

    • Journal

  • 12

    12. The Golden Rule

    • Making peace

    • Relaxation

    • Make peace in all your relationships

  • 13

    Condensed version

    • Open Your Heart condensed version

Are you ready to open your heart and let go of the past?